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Oct 12, 2021 00:40
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🏅 あなたの味方
お役に立てれば幸いです。
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe staff
Maezawa from the CEO’s office here. I’ll answer as well.
I’ve revised the question.
Since it said “the question is…” within the post, I removed everything that wasn’t part of the question.
Now, to the main point:
I don’t think the man is misunderstanding anything; I think he’s simply very possessive.
Are you familiar with the term “Char’s Custom”? Most men like the idea of having someone “exclusively for them.”
茉莉花
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Other
Here we go again: young and cute li’l me!
You’ve been to Tokyo Disney Resort, right?
The Columbia in DisneySea isn’t actually floating in the ocean, is it? There’s a road outside, and the sea is beyond that.
But you know that and still enjoy it, right?
If your companion said, “This ship is fake, you know—the road’s right outside!” wouldn’t you think, “Oh, be quiet. I know that already”?
You’re getting your allowance by skillfully letting your papa believe whatever he wants to believe.
It’s fine to tell him he’s the only one even if you have other papas, a boyfriend, or a friends-with-benefits partner. When you’re with that papa, you put on a convincing lover-like act—that’s what the allowance is for, isn’t it?
I’m tired of seeing these “young and cute me” questions that are really just a way to show off your personal opinions.
Please stop. You’re only causing trouble for sincere women like the one in the other day’s question.
Marika
The question was edited, so my answer ended up sounding strange.
It’s all Maezawa’s fault (lol).
綾瀬なな
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Other
I’m Nana Ayase ♡
After reading your question, I initially thought you were a young woman—but you’re a man, apparently. Wow. You’ve made some pretty sweeping assumptions and written as though you know everything.
There are all kinds of dynamics between men and women. Instead of chasing after only young girls, why not look at women a little older than you as well?
As for “don’t get another boyfriend,” I think that’s more about preventing STIs than about love or anything like that. Maybe the affection comes after that.
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m date◎yume, a male member.
She tells me she likes me. Of course, she means “like,” not love, though（笑）
That’s more than enough for me.
Also... I’m actually the one who tells her not to bring home any illnesses（笑）
A～Dまで一通りオファーの経験あり、多くても月１程度でLINEはスケジュール調整のみ、スマートに無理なく長期交際するスタイルです。
Age: 50s
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m Dai, a male member.
As for answering your question, I think you’ve got the wrong idea.
But if, like you, someone is doing papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) purely for the money, isn’t making men misunderstand her part of the deal?
If we didn’t misunderstand things, we wouldn’t give a generous (well-paying) allowance or feel like buying gifts.
The fact that you don’t understand that makes you seem pretty foolish.
You’ll only have lots of young, attractive men around you for now.
So make the most of it while you can.
🏅 倶楽部女性のご主人様に潤いを！
Mパパ、永遠の交際継続中！
B1タイプ〜A寄りパパです！
会う度大人は嫌と感じる方………ご相談ください。
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m Kamihikoki, a male member.
> Are men who say things like, “I don’t cheat either…” under the impression that the woman actually likes them?
Isn’t that something they say because they lack confidence…?
あや
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Other
I’m Aya, a female member.
If I’m going to date a married man, I feel that having no allowance is far too one-sided. After all, it becomes an affair.
As I’ve mentioned here a few times, I do get pretty jealous. Partly because papas enjoy it when I do, but more than anything, I hate being lied to behind my back. I don’t want my papa to take me for granted… If I’m showing affection and putting up with all kinds of things, I want him not to betray that trust.
I believe there’s a special bond between a papa and me, kind of like the bond between a hostess and her customer, so I really hate feeling disrespected. If a salesperson were betrayed by a long-standing client, they’d think, “What a jerk,” right? It’s a little like that. I get extremely angry when I’m lied to.
I feel like these emotions are similar to romantic feelings—but they’re still different. Maybe they’re closer to the bond between a hostess and her customer that I mentioned earlier.
When I was in Ginza, I realized that the bond with a customer can be something really wonderful. You can never truly be together, but you can’t easily walk away either. It may be a relationship involving money, but money alone isn’t enough to make it last. The hostesses who were loved for many years were all attractive as people, too. I want to become that kind of appealing papa-katsu woman myself.
フラグメーカー
Male
Column
🏅 ４０歳でリアル異世界転生したオッサン l 元金融マン → 現ＡＩ界隈
出張ホストの実技試験合格してるので、対女性への無難な前戯とかマナーに一定の知見あり。
Age: 40s
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m Flag Maker, a columnist.
They’re happy little souls who either mistake it for genuine affection—or simply misunderstand this kind of relationship altogether.
That’s exactly why they’re so easy to fool.
And why it’s so easy to keep them wrapped around your finger.
On the other hand, can you consistently keep a man with a high allowance, a polished approach to dating, and no displays of affection wrapped around your finger? Can you turn it into a long-term arrangement? That’s difficult in its own way. In that case, the woman is always the one who could be cut loose at any time.
Still, I suppose men like that really are pretty rare ^^