I knew he didn’t have any infections, and since I’m on the pill too, we’ve continued seeing each other with unprotected sex and withdrawal from our first meeting. But I’d like him to get tested regularly, and I’m not sure how to bring it up.
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I’m thinking of getting tested first, then saying, “You might be worried, so I just wanted to let you know, to be safe,” showing my papa (a male supporter) the results, and suggesting that he get tested too. How would men feel about being approached this way?
Maezawa from the CEO’s office will answer as well.
I think it’s okay to bring it up directly.
Something like:
“We’ve been doing it without condoms up until now, but I’ve suddenly started feeling uneasy. I’m okay with continuing as we have, but would it be possible for us to get tested every month from now on? Of course, I’ll get tested too.”
Something along those lines.
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I’m Dai, a male member.
I get the feeling that some men who have sex without protection may not agree to that suggestion.
They might suspect me, or even say that I should pay for the testing if the result comes back negative.
Men who have sex without protection are definitely doing the same with other women as well.
Even if they only have unprotected sex with you at Universe Club, if they’re also doing it through other dating clubs, apps, or sex-work services, it wouldn’t be surprising for them to have an infection.
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I’m Ayase Nana ♡
Where does your certainty that he doesn’t have an STI come from?
You won’t know unless you get tested.
If it’s HIV, symptoms don’t necessarily appear right away, so you won’t know. You’ll just be waiting for death.
Even without taking the pill, there’s a possibility of pregnancy and STIs if just the tip goes in, even for a moment.
What about hepatitis? That can be transmitted too.
How about showing each other your test results once a month? Try telling your papa (a male supporter), “Why don’t you get an STI test?” I think you can apply through the Universe website.
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
Showing your test results out of the blue might make you seem like a pro, so rather than waiting for the woman to show hers, I think it’s better to say directly, “I’m okay with going without a condom, but I’d like you to get tested regularly.”
If you’re having trouble bringing it up, you could say that a friend contracted an STI.
Adding this after reading Mac’s answer:
That aside, as Mac said, I do think you should get tested. If she asks why, saying that a friend contracted an STI gives you a convenient excuse.
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