What kind of impression are people trying to convey when they say you seem calm or mature?

I’m Aya, a female member. It’s not meant negatively, so there’s no need to worry. Basically, being calm and composed is a good thing. It’s a compliment, so take it as one.

I’m Fuu, a columnist. I think he’s genuinely complimenting you, rather than just making polite conversation. Your papa (a male supporter) is probably making an effort to find things to praise you for because he wants to see you light up when you hear something like that. I don’t think he means that you look gloomy, so try not to take it negatively. Just smile and say, “Thank you.” I think that will help the relationship go smoothly.

I’m Paper Airplane, a male member who’s started getting two-character replies like “k” not only from my daughter, but from my wife as well. I think the bubbly, girlish phase ends at around 24 and a half. That said, no matter their age, women have a unique charm in the way they express a whole range of emotions—joy, anger, surprise, complaints, and even little musings to themselves. I’m sure you, too, are full of charm that’s perfectly suited to your age.

Maezawa from the CEO’s office here as well. > When someone says you seem “calm” or “mature,” what kind of person are they using that polite compliment for? Rather than just being a polite compliment, I think you probably really do give off a calm and mature impression. > Personally, I think I seem about as age-appropriate as everyone else around me. The fact that you’re able to look at yourself objectively means you’re actually quite mature. You may simply not have noticed it yourself, and I don’t think everyone is capable of doing that. > I can’t exactly act bubbly anymore like I did when I was a college student or in my first year as a working adult. Doesn’t that imply that you—or people around you—were bubbly back then? If so, men are also going on dates with women in that age range. The week before his date with you, he may even have gone out with a woman around 23. And from a man’s perspective, there isn’t that huge a gap between 26 and 23. That’s precisely why he makes you an offer. If he thought there were a major difference, men would only make offers to women 23 or younger. In the world of dating apps, that might mean popularity becomes concentrated solely on younger women. So, if he thinks there’s not much difference between 23 and 26, then telling you that you seem mature means: “That’s a good thing. You’re wonderful.” I don’t understand why you’re taking it as a negative. Being mature is a good thing, isn’t it? What exactly are you dissatisfied with?

I’m Kazu, a male member. When men say a woman is “calm and mature,” I think they usually mean she doesn’t come across as bubbly or overly energetic (lol). They probably just feel that way because, compared with bubbly women, she seems more composed. Once you’ve lived roughly twice as long, a difference of a few years hardly feels like anything.