My children are grown, and I’m finally able to spend time just for myself.
While living a modest, steady life as an office worker,
I’ve been deeply involved in papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) for two years.
I’ve also been lucky enough to meet a wonderful papa (a male supporter) I really connect with.
Honestly, I’ve come to feel that going on dates with men without an allowance is pointless,
and I thought I would never again have a romantic relationship that might lead to remarriage.
However, I met a man outside of papa-katsu,
and we hit it off. I’ve become completely taken with him and want to start a genuine romantic relationship with him.
I’m unsure whether I should tell my papa about this.
When things were difficult and painful in my personal life,
my papa supported me not only financially but also emotionally, and I have nothing but gratitude for him.
It’s not that I’ve come to dislike him;
I’ve simply met someone I want to cherish even more than my papa.
I want to be honest and tell him how I feel now,
but it hurts to think that doing so might seem like repaying his kindness with betrayal.
Would telling him everything honestly be the greatest sign of sincerity?
I’m Flagmaker, a relationship advice columnist.
Life gives us choices: choosing one option, or choosing not to choose anything at all. I don’t think there’s always a right answer or a best option.
I tend to choose one course of action even if it hurts someone, because I want to feel like I’ve cleared things up for myself.
Choosing not to do anything might mean no one gets hurt for now, but you may end up feeling unsettled or guilty.
That said, in this case, I think you still have time to decide.
The reason is that people often ask about situations like this before they’ve actually started dating someone, or while they’re still in the stage of having an unrequited crush. Even when you give them serious advice, it’s pretty common for them not to take any action and simply leave things as they are.
For now, try to figure out whether you can actually build a good relationship with this man and whether things can realistically progress. I think it’s fine to decide whether to tell your papa (a male supporter) after that.
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Maezawa from the CEO’s office here, weighing in as well.
If he’s the type who wants you all to himself, I probably wouldn’t tell him. But if he’s not, he may actually be happy to know and support you.
I think it really depends on which type he is.
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I’m Nana Ayase ♡
If he supported you when you were going through a tough time, it might be a little difficult to bring it up, you know?
Maybe you should tell him when the time comes that you really have to. You’re not planning to marry the person you’re in a genuine relationship with, are you?
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I’m Dai, a male member.
I’m leaving the papa-katsu world because I genuinely want a romantic relationship.
Personally, I’d be happier if she told me honestly.
Either way, after being together for two years, I’d want us to have a proper goodbye.
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I’m Date◎Yume, a male member.
I’d welcome it. Even in long-term papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), there comes a time when you part ways after a few years. It’s only a matter of whether that happens sooner or later, and if it would make her happy, I’d gladly wish her well and let her go.
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
I think everyone sees things differently depending on the person. So, in my opinion, the right thing to do is whatever feels right for you.
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