[Answer from an outsider]

《How should I handle a relationship virgin?》 https://universe-club.jp/help/questions/view/2377 That “0.5” bothers me. I think there’s a good chance he isn’t simply inexperienced, but rather a sly guy. From an older man’s perspective, being able to spend six hours chatting away with a cute girl he clicks with for 0.5 would hardly be a bad way to pass the time. From the wording, you come across as a woman with not only a talent for papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), but also a good sense for it. So I doubt you’re asking because you want some textbook answer like, “Make sure to discuss everything properly beforehand.” With that in mind, I’ll say this: As you’re concerned, it would probably be safest not to bring up money with this type of man—at least for now. So my answer may not directly help with your question, “How should I bring it up?” But I’ll deliberately suggest three possible strategies that involve not bringing it up at all. 1) Decide that you’re willing to accept not getting paid, and sleep with him once. Sorry for putting it bluntly, but think of it as, “Even if it doesn’t work out, it’s not like I’m losing anything.” It’s like a business accepting an initial project at a loss in order to open an account with a new client. Even though the actual activity may not be all that different, dating arrangements have more of a “long-term business-to-business transaction” (B2B) character than the “consumer retail” (B2C) nature of the adult-entertainment industry. So, as a general rule, things tend to work better if you don’t think too short-term. Often, you can’t tell what kind of return to expect until you’ve done business several times. Try sleeping with him once. If he still won’t give you an allowance after that, you can decide for yourself whether to have a serious talk or cut him off. But in this particular case, we don’t even know whether he wants to get into bed with you in the first place… It may be hard for an attractive woman like you to believe, but there’s also a possibility that he doesn’t want that. 2) Think of it as a game rather than a transaction. On the surface, this man seems completely harmless, so why not use him as a “practice partner for improving your papa-katsu skills”? Treat it like tending a home garden—or sparring—and see how much you can shape this older man to your liking. I think you could learn quite a bit from the process, even if he’s somewhat troublesome. (Men also often choose not to cut off a somewhat difficult girl and instead treat the situation as a game to improve their own skills.) 3) Just leave things as they are. Keep him around as an “asshi” or “messhi” (if you don’t know these old-fashioned terms, ask your father) and use him as a convenient resource. He seems to be very fond of you. Fortunately, you don’t seem to dislike him either. Unless he starts saying troublesome things like “I want you to love me” or “I want you to quit the site,” why not keep him around as a harmless staff member of sorts? Quite a few men find joy in being used as a “convenient man.” Coming back to the subject, though, that “0.5” really does bother me. (I occasionally give someone only 0.5 myself as a way of screening them.) My hunch is that this man is simply an older guy who wants to spend time with you. You could also say that this type of person is someone who unconsciously causes the other person to lose out—he’s merely stealing your time—so he may be best avoided.