Yesterday, I asked for advice because I felt that the ¥70,000 monthly allowance wasn’t worth the emotional strain, stress, unpleasant feelings, and considerable time and mental burden caused by P’s extreme possessiveness and interference:

- Messaging me every day from morning until bedtime - Calling me late at night - Quickly becoming moody, sulking, or angry - Being a troublesome, genuinely lovesick, emotionally unstable type He says that ¥70,000 a month is already a considerable financial stretch for him, and keeps acting as though I owe him, saying things like, “I’m paying you this much even though I’m barely getting by.” He expects a lot despite there being no prospect of an allowance increase, which leaves me at a loss. (I think his lack of financial余裕 makes him even more demanding.) Originally, the arrangement was simply that we’d meet twice a month for ¥70,000. But now he gets angry if I don’t message him every day, pressures me, acts possessive, and interferes in my private life. The other day, he saw me while I was out privately. I had told him I had somewhere to be, but apparently I looked like I was free. He aggressively confronted me, saying, “I saw you getting into a car with another man!” The car was my family’s, and the man was my father, who’s in his 60s. Even after I explained that it was my dad, he said, “There’s no way that was your father,” and refused to believe me. (It really was my biological father lol.) I don’t even know where he’s watching me from, and it honestly creeps me out. Even when we’re together, if my phone merely vibrates (it was just a chain message), he interrogates me, asking, “Are you messaging someone else?” He’s far too much of a wannabe boyfriend, and his delusions are getting ridiculous. I’m exhausted. Should I cut things off with him? This is my first papa (a male supporter), and the experience has made me distrustful of people.