The scout’s reaction is pretty easy to understand: He approaches you and recommends working in the adult entertainment industry → you say you don’t want to → he says, “With your looks, you can’t work at a hostess club. If you don’t want to do that kind of work, then work hard at a daytime job” → you say you have no work history → he feels sorry for you. In other words, based on what he observed, I think he concluded that you’re unattractive.
I don’t really understand the story about the guy who approached you. He did approach you, complimented you by saying you were cute, and I think “you look like a foreigner” was also meant as a compliment. But ultimately, I think it was the conversation afterward that made him feel sorry for you. He thought you were cute, looks-wise, but then ended up feeling sorry for you.
Isn’t what’s pitiful less about your appearance and more about your mentality and behavior? You’re walking around a nightlife district where scouts and pickup artists hang out without making any effort to dress up. When asked, you have no proper work history. At the same time, you don’t seem to have the effort or resolve to rely on your femininity and make the most of it. People have different tastes, so there will always be someone who finds any kind of appearance attractive. But you aren’t really trying to develop that appeal. And apparently, you don’t even have a steady job. You’re just drifting along. I’m only speculating, but if that’s the situation, I can understand someone thinking, “That’s really sad.”
As for you, I think your first priority should be to work on yourself, find a steady job, and aim to live your life positively. Also, think about the appropriate dress and attitude for the time, place, and occasion. Some places call for a certain level of alertness, while others are more relaxed. You can’t walk around Kabukicho with the same casual attitude you’d have strolling through Togoshi Ginza.
Lastly, I think “pitiful” can actually be a positive word. You might want to say that the assumptions behind the other person’s feelings were wrong, but I think someone becomes “pitiful” because, based on those assumptions, the other person feels sympathy for them and wants to empathize with them. In other words, although you may be a mess right now, you might have enough human appeal that people who see you still want to reach out, even just a little.
I feel sorry for you too, and I also think it’s a waste of potential. I’d be happy if this made you realize something and prompted you to change.
Taro
