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Jul 16, 2022 20:04
6 answers
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In my case, I tell them that I’m perfectly fine with them seeing multiple people. I also make it clear that if they choose to hide the truth—such as pretending they don’t have any other papas when they actually do—that’s fine too, as long as they make sure I never find out.
So in this situation, if she had told me beforehand that she was seeing multiple people, I’d tease her about it later. But if she had hidden the truth, I think I’d seriously lower her priority (though I’ve never actually been in that situation, so I can’t say for sure).
Also, I don’t know if this will help take your mind off it, but if she were the former type, I’d casually suggest a date at the same place later and try extra hard to make sure she had an even better time than when I saw her there.
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Age: 50s
👨 Male
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You might as well start making offers to other women.
Several of them, haha.
That should help you settle down.
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It depends on what you’re looking for from papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan).
If you want an exclusive, one-on-one girlfriend, you should focus on keeping that one girl close and give up on the others (she’ll find out if you’re seeing multiple girls). But if you simply want to enjoy the company of women involved in papa-katsu, you need to be mature enough to turn a blind eye to multiple relationships.
You need to figure out what you really want from papa-katsu and act accordingly.
You may end up thinking, “Yeah, maybe papa-katsu just isn’t for me after all.” That’s perfectly fine too.
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Age: 60s
👨 Male
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Someone in their 50s shouldn’t get shaken up over something that minor. At the same time, be grateful that even in your 50s, you can still get flustered by things like this. You’ll enjoy your next rendezvous twice as much!
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe member
Assume that your partner has other papas and is enjoying dates with them just as much as she does with you. That’s simply how it is.
Take this as a lesson that you were too naive.
👨 Male
Universe member
First of all, don’t hang around places where you might run into your date. Focus on your work when you’re not on a date, and don’t get distracted!
Next, choose a dating partner who’s on your level, and become the number-one papa (a male supporter) for her.
As long as you stick to these rules, you have nothing to be nervous about!