At the end of the day, what are the characteristics of a “well-groomed man” from a woman’s perspective and a “well-groomed woman” from a man’s perspective?

It’s daytime, but this was an interesting question, so I’ll answer. This is Taro, who works night shifts. :) I think “a sense of cleanliness” means “being minimally invasive.” “Invasiveness” is a medical term referring to the extent to which something affects the body. For example, when it comes to surgery, people say catheter procedures are less invasive than open surgery. In short, it’s about whether something has unnecessary effects on your body or not. Living things, including humans, are constantly interacting with the outside world, and the same thing happens when we meet someone. Droplets fly when we talk, we breathe in someone else’s exhaled air in a small room, and we encounter all kinds of smells. If we eat, there are chewing sounds, and so on. All sorts of things come in. Conversation is part of that too. Some people push into subjects you’re not ready to have touched on when you’ve only just met. I feel that “invasiveness” is a good way to describe these situations. Put another way, it’s someone who is present but doesn’t disrupt the other person’s pace. In simpler terms, maybe it means someone who doesn’t make you feel at risk. Having your rhythm thrown off and being taken in an unpleasant direction can feel risky, after all. I don’t think lacking a sense of cleanliness is necessarily a bad thing. Deep relationships involve an exchange in which both people affect and are affected by each other. That can feel pleasant when it happens as intended, but even when it doesn’t, it can still lead to something good in the end. To put it simply, “Osaka aunties” probably don’t exactly give off a sense of cleanliness. But they’re lovable, aren’t they? I wouldn’t want to be around one constantly, though... Wait, I don’t mean they’re bad. It’s just that if I only get one life, I’d like to live it differently. (lol) In sales, it’s better to have a sense of cleanliness. You’re less likely to step on a landmine, and you can perform more consistently. If you define a dating club as a place where you’re not necessarily looking for someone you genuinely like, but rather someone you don’t dislike, who will accept an allowance and be intimate with you, then wouldn’t someone with a sense of cleanliness naturally have a wider strike zone? Taro

I completely agree with what Mac said. If you have a problem, just say it directly. At least, I wouldn’t get angry and end things just because someone told me they were dissatisfied. On the contrary, I’d be more upset if someone actually had complaints but hid them while continuing to see me. We’re not a boss and subordinate, so you should feel free to say exactly what you want directly.

I think it’s the “vibe” that naturally comes through from a person. I believe people judge you based on everything from your appearance, choice of words, attitude, and belongings to your sincerity and even your mannerisms.

For women, the two things that matter for looking clean and well-groomed are VIO grooming and teeth. I don’t really care about anything else. In fact, when it comes to VIO, I sometimes find it so rare and exciting when someone hasn’t groomed that area, so I guess teeth are the main thing. As for odor-related issues like the “Manchurian Incident,” I consider those a separate matter from cleanliness. There’s not much you can do about them, after all. As an aside, I’ve actually encountered a case where a woman who passionately complained about a female friend’s odor had a slight odor herself. That said, there was also a woman with a “Manchurian Incident” whose technique was so good that we continued seeing each other. Incidentally—and I’m terrible at transitions—I’ve never had a woman fail to become my partner because she lacked a sense of cleanliness. While I’m at it, I’ve also repeatedly felt that women who were intimidating or had particularly harsh personalities lacked a sense of cleanliness. An older guy is inevitably a “dirty old guy” simply by being an older guy, so there’s not much to be done about that. But I’m almost always complimented on my own cleanliness. As another aside, I’ve now decided that “old guy” should be written as “dirty mountain”—a mountain overflowing with dirt. Odor, stains, hair removal, hairstyle, obesity, nails, teeth and bad breath, ears, nose hair, muscles, fashion sense, aging, cleaning my room…the list goes on. I care about all of it. I absolutely never meet a woman on a day when I don’t feel I’m looking perfect. Maybe it’s not so surprising, but aren’t there a lot of women who say that a man’s hairstyle is extremely important? That might be why I pay particular attention to mine. That said, I suspect that because my allowance is high, a lot of what women say is probably just lip service. So I feel like “allowance” could even be included as one of the factors in looking clean and well-groomed.

For now, please report that papa to the club. I’m honestly shocked by how troubling both that man and the person asking this question are. I have serious doubts about both of your basic sense of decency and personal hygiene.