A follow-up question about the man who stopped responding after losing his pet.
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I met this man privately, not through papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan).
He still hasn’t even read my messages today.
As Aya said, I’ve decided that I don’t have time to spend on a man who treats me carelessly, so I’m going to start meeting other men as well. (This is a romantic relationship, not papa-katsu.)
However, it’s been several years since I met this man, and until recently we were so close that we were practically dating, so I just can’t sort out my feelings.
We haven’t been intimate yet.
I understand that the people answering aren’t this man, so you probably can’t know what he really means...
Should I keep waiting?
Or should I just give up...? I’ve been feeling depressed about it for five straight days.
I can’t bring myself to focus on papa-katsu.
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Pets are family, after all.
When you first heard from him about the situation, maybe you came across as if you thought, “It’s just a pet.”
He may have grown tired of you because you didn’t empathize with his feelings or try to understand him.
Or perhaps the pet was just an excuse.
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The man and you are in the same situation, neither of you having sorted out your feelings yet.
If you want to wait, then wait. Since I can’t know either his feelings or yours, I think you should do whatever feels right to you.
You only live once, so try to live in a way that leaves you with as few regrets as possible.
Let’s do our best today, too.
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You’re not intimate, but do you consider yourselves to be dating?
That can’t be right. To the person you’re asking about, you’re probably just a friend, aren’t you?
They may have realized that you got the wrong idea, felt uncomfortable, and started keeping their distance. Why not wait about a month?
Or perhaps the way you’re messaging them on LINE is the problem.
Please don’t send them another message. The more you send, the more put off they’ll become.
After that, why not look for a genuine boyfriend? I’m sure there are people you could truly fall for through papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan).
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If you haven’t had an intimate relationship for several years, aren’t you just close friends?
Show up at his place and ask, “What exactly are you thinking?” If you’ve been close for years but you don’t even know where he lives, it might be better to give up. Find a boyfriend and forget about him.
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Ah, if you’d built that strong a connection, it really could be pet loss. After all, there wouldn’t be any reason for him to suddenly stop responding. As I mentioned before, some people consider their pets extremely important. Based on what you’ve written, pet loss seems like the most likely explanation.
In that case, I think it’d be best to wait patiently and send him an occasional LINE message to show you care. Of course, you could give up after five days and start looking for another man, but that kind of behavior would tarnish your own sincerity. If you want to become a shallow person, that’s fine too, I suppose. I might do the same if I were in your position.
Still, it sounds like there may be more to the story. Could you tell us a little more?
I have a feeling this is going to turn into something like a Milk Boy comedy routine, so I’m getting a little excited（笑）
Taro
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Sorry, I found that a little funny.
It’s because being that close—practically dating despite not having a physical relationship—sounds like an older guy who’s become obsessed with a hostess.
In most cases, going a long time without having sex only makes things more complicated.
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