I’m sorry for always troubling those who answer my questions. Even so, I’ve realized there are calm, gentlemanly people who still respond sincerely, so I’m posting again. (Even if you immediately criticize me for being single at 39, please understand that I spent my 30s attending graduate school, studying abroad, and working unpaid, so I simply had little connection to marriage. Everyone has a different path in life.)

I had been communicating with about six women through Letter Date. I met the woman I found the most attractive (personally, that is) for the first time. Since it was through Letter Date, we had already communicated to some extent before meeting. We met at noon and had lunch. Since I had traveled from far away, I had reserved a hotel room. After lunch, we spent an enjoyable time talking in the room without either of us feeling uncomfortable. (I’ll leave anything beyond that to your imagination.) She was a very positive person and taught me many things, such as how to think about life and ways to make myself stronger. I feel I was almost brainwashed. At her request, we also had dinner at a restaurant in the hotel. After that, she told me to turn down the other women I had been corresponding with because she believed she could bring positive energy into my life. She gave a proper reason as well: “I’ll become someone you need, so you won’t need any other women.” In the end, we spent about 10 hours together on our first date. She has also contacted me that night and the following morning. I don’t think there are many women like her. Since we live far apart, she has promised to come to my area next time. This has turned into something like a relationship question and may be outside the purpose of this club, but I’m not as wealthy as the people who answer questions here. Financially, I can manage having this one woman in my life, but I don’t have the time or money to continue seeing other women as well. I’m leaning toward committing to this woman and turning down the others. Is that the right thing to do? I’m anxious because we’ve only had one date, but I’m prepared to accept the risks and would like to entrust myself to her. Please share any opposing opinions.