Thank you for answering my question about him wanting to meet four times a month for a monthly allowance of 100,000 yen.

How about saying, “We agreed on a monthly arrangement based on meeting twice a month at first, but somehow it became three times, and this month it’s four times, right?” From there, you’ll have to improvise based on his reaction. However, rather than bringing up the allowance amount, pointing out that he hasn’t kept to your original agreement or understanding may help you address the issue without making it about money. As Maezawa-san mentioned in their answer, I don’t think agreeing to three meetings was a particularly good idea. It may have been an act of kindness on your part, but from an outsider’s perspective, it seems that this is why the man has started taking you for granted.

As Maezawa said, you should tell him that with an allowance of 10, two meetings is the limit. Unless the birthday present or allowance is exceptionally generous, 10 may be the maximum this papa (a male supporter) is willing to pay, so you may not be able to expect an increase. From the way you describe yourself, it sounds like you might be pressured into agreeing if you meet in person, so I think it would be better to communicate via LINE. That way, you can continue while consulting with people here. Of course, in this world, if both people are happy with the arrangement, that’s what matters. But honestly, if it’s a monthly arrangement of 10 for three or four meetings—that is, 2.5 to a little over 3 per meeting—I’d be too wary to date someone who made that kind of proposal. I’ve been feeling a bit lost lately, so I opened the app for the first time in a while and was surprised to see so many proposals like that. But since there are a certain number of girls offering those terms, it seems that papas who propose such conditions—and papas who, like this one, don’t see anything wrong with the current situation—naturally end up appearing. At the very least, I assume you’re accepting those terms because you genuinely think they’re reasonable. But if the result is that papas offering reasonably good or better terms avoid you, it does make me wonder whether you’re putting your effort in the wrong direction.

It’s really not a good idea to bring this up over LINE—or rather, it’s quite difficult to do so without leaving a bad impression. You should first be clear about whether you actually want to continue seeing that man, assuming you receive an allowance of around 50,000 yen each time you meet. From the man’s perspective, he generally wouldn’t mind doubling the allowance if the number of meetings doubled. But if all he hears is talk about money, it’s only going to make him lose interest.

Looking back at your previous question, the original arrangement was pay-per-meeting at 50,000 yen, right? If so, I think the basic approach would be to tell him that, under a monthly allowance of 100,000 yen, you can only meet twice. You could also say something along the lines of: “I’d like an additional allowance if we meet more times this month. Otherwise, I won’t be able to meet anymore.” That said, this only applies if you don’t want to meet three times a month for 100,000 yen. If you’re okay with meeting up to three times, there’s no need to say all that. I think the best option is to stick firmly to: 100,000 yen per month, but only up to twice a month. I mentioned asking for an additional allowance above, but bringing that up could cause him to lose interest quickly. So it may be better to firmly maintain the position that it stays at 100,000 yen per month and you can’t meet more than twice. If he offers to pay extra on his own, take some time to think carefully about whether you’re satisfied with it before replying. If you respond immediately, you may later regret it and think you should have asked for more, so it’s better to consider it thoroughly before answering.

When it comes to the allowance, what matters most is that both people are satisfied with the arrangement. Some women are perfectly happy with a monthly allowance of 100,000 yen for four dates. So the basic assumption here is simply that you’re the one who isn’t satisfied. That said, the man may be mistakenly thinking that you have special feelings for him if you’re willing to meet three times a month for 100,000 yen. (That’s relatively reasonable allowance-wise, after all.) He may be thinking, “She probably wants to sleep with me, so she won’t mind meeting five or six times instead of just four.” But for him, 100,000 yen is probably the most he can afford to offer, which is why he’s negotiating on those terms. “I have work” is a convenient excuse for turning someone down. You can use it as many times as you like. It seems to me that you should simply contact him whenever you want to meet—or whenever you need the allowance.