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Apr 16, 2022 08:05
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From what you’ve shared, it sounds like this may be a sign that things are coming to an end.
When a man truly likes someone, he’ll try to see her even if he only has a little free time. Or, if he doesn’t want to let her go, he may send her money. The fact that he’s doing neither unfortunately suggests that he doesn’t feel that strongly about you.
If you negotiate by asking, “What about my allowance while we can’t meet?” you may end up giving your papa (a male supporter) the excuse to think, “So she really is all about the money. Let’s end this.” I wouldn’t recommend it.
So lower your expectations, don’t say anything, and start looking for your next papa.
茉莉花
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I don’t negotiate my allowance. I just tell him that I miss him when we can’t meet.
Besides, everyone knows I’m not going to struggle financially even without an allowance…
—Marika
綾瀬なな
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Perhaps that’s simply the amount the two gentlemen can afford to spend per month.
If both of them told you that, it might be better to let it go for now. Hopefully, the next gentleman will be more promising.
アーリー
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I’ve never had a situation where I couldn’t make even a little time once a month. The shortest meeting I’ve had was just 20–30 minutes over tea, and I still gave her the allowance for an adult relationship (intimate).
In my case, once I’ve been seeing someone for a while and we reach a certain level of trust, I start to dislike changing the allowance depending on whether we have an adult relationship or not. So the allowance is the same whether it’s just tea or dinner only (no intimacy).
It’s usually around 10 per pay-per-meeting arrangement, though.
Even if you call it a promise, it isn’t a contract, so I think what matters is how important it is to you and whether you actually want to see her.
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Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe staff
I think he probably doesn’t consider meeting twice a month to be a firm promise.
He was likely only expressing his “希望” of wanting to meet twice a month, so he probably sees it as something that may not always happen.
When it’s an actual commitment, it’s usually described as a monthly arrangement.
That said, there are occasional cases where someone has a monthly arrangement but doesn’t receive anything because they didn’t meet even once that month.
In that situation, though, the man would be the one breaking the agreement.
A～Dまで一通りオファーの経験あり、多くても月１程度でLINEはスケジュール調整のみ、スマートに無理なく長期交際するスタイルです。
Age: 50s
👨 Male
Universe member
Still, I think you should take this more seriously.
If it were me, I’d always make time to see a woman I wanted to meet, even if I were busy. If I let a month go by, it would mean my feelings were starting to fade.
You said you’ve made plans for next month, but please consider that he may be close to gradually fading out of contact.
Since he’s a pay-per-meeting papa (a male supporter) who pays 70,000–80,000 yen, finding a new woman would probably be relatively easy for him.
If you try to negotiate too aggressively, he may say goodbye on the spot.