I have a question because Mac-san occasionally uses the expression “training a papa” in his answers.

I thought “cultivating” meant somehow reforming a papa (a male supporter) who acts creepy and is a person to avoid into a normal papa. Please educate him. If you just release him back into the wild, he’ll be a public nuisance.

By “developing” a papa, you mean gradually getting him to behave in ways that suit your preferences, right? I’m not that skillful myself… Hostesses are several levels above me in that regard. That said, I feel like I’ve encountered both of the types Mack described in the past: > Men who have money and can get anything they want > Naive men who are genuinely in love, inexperienced with women, and serious—believing that if they show their sincerity by giving an allowance, the woman will eventually return their feelings There have been all kinds of things, including someone prostrating himself at the entrance to my apartment. Of course, it’s nothing to brag about. If you want to “develop” a papa, I think you first need to differentiate yourself from other women doing papa-katsu. Whether it’s your way of expressing affection, your personality, or your intimate skills, you need to have something unconventional—something that draws the papa in. After all, if the papa doesn’t develop feelings for you, there’s no way to develop him. My advice is to start by expressing your affection honestly and sincerely. Good luck.

I agree with Taro to some extent, but if you’re serious about developing your skills, one option might be to jump into the nightlife hostessing world. Women in that industry have really honed the art of getting money out of men without sleeping with them. Even at Universe Club, women in their late 20s to early 30s with experience in that world often have a certain sexiness. They don’t give off a money-hungry vibe—in fact, they can seem quite refined and demure… Anyway, they often have this irresistibly alluring quality. I’ve basically decided not to make offers to women from that background, but sometimes just looking at their profiles makes me want to send them an offer, haha.

I’m not trying to diss anyone, but if by “training” you mean learning how to make more money, you’d be better off learning the tricks of the nightlife industry. Or look at the techniques Thai sex workers use to get men hooked—they’re already fully established. Either way, I don’t think there’s some magic tip that will suddenly make a compensated-dating woman rake in money. If you’re seriously looking to make money, I think it’s better to jump into the nightlife industry and experience the whole cycle for yourself. People don’t usually say it openly, but quite a few women who started out in that world eventually succeeded in regular careers. Within the role of a compensated-dating partner, I think it’s important to focus on building a good relationship with the person you’re seeing. Value the connection as a once-in-a-lifetime encounter, not just the money, and make sure you properly communicate how you feel. These are basic things as human beings, but once you start thinking, “I’m a young woman opening my legs, so of course I deserve to be paid,” you’ll neglect them in no time. That may be true in a sense, but I think what matters is whether you can also value the other side of the relationship. Taro

Even in a club relationship that tends to remain merely superficially considerate, there are connections where both people can gradually enter each other’s worlds, effortlessly becoming deeply involved and forming an unbreakable bond—that kind of compatibility does exist. You could say they come to control and be controlled by each other, while continually shaping and nurturing one another. When two people openly share every emotion—joy, anger, sorrow, and happiness—with an intensity they might not even show a lover or spouse, deepening their emotional connection, it becomes impossible to walk away. Not a case of falling genuinely in love, but two chosen adults who are able to let each other in completely.