Is papa-katsu considered irresponsible?

I do think people tend to see it not so much as being irresponsible, but as making money in a way that’s outside the normal path. I’m quite similar to you, actually. I’d been following a fairly conventional path, but then I dropped out—or at least, that’s how other people see it—and started papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan). I also have assets from my parents. I still have a regular day job, but because my monthly income from papa-katsu is far higher, I do feel a little guilty about it. That said, I quit the job that had previously damaged my health, and now I can focus completely on work I’ve dreamed of doing for years, with zero stress. That’s only possible because papa-katsu provides me with a basic income. Even when I tell friends and acquaintances about this, they don’t understand at all. Which is only natural, I suppose… so I stopped mentioning my papa (a male supporter) altogether. There are some things you simply can’t understand each other on, even with friends. That’s just how it is. I’ve lost friends since starting papa-katsu, but in exchange, I’ve gained wonderful papas, fulfilling work, and peace of mind about the future, so I don’t regret it. Unless this is someone you’ve supported and helped each other with on the level of a best friend, what can an ordinary friend really do for you? And there’s only so much you can do for that friend, too. So I think it’s okay to take some time apart.

That’s a good question. > Is papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) irresponsible? There are times when I feel the same way. In the end, I’ve come to see it as a necessary evil, but I haven’t taken that thought any further... > Can women who do papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) not lead a normal life? I don’t think that’s true. As long as you don’t lose sight of yourself and keep taking on new challenges, you’ll be fine.

Your friend is completely wrong. You’re the one who’s 100 times happier, and you absolutely made the right choice. You only live once, and life is short. If you can enjoy more of it—and earn the money for that legally—then you’re winning, no matter how you make it.

It’s not really a matter of being irresponsible or anything like that. That said, even if I were in the same position, I wouldn’t choose to live the way you do. In the end, everyone is different, so your friend’s opinion doesn’t really matter. You should live in a way that won’t leave you with regrets.

Only a popular girl at a black-label club could earn that kind of money, so you’d be the type Gyutaro, Upper Rank Six, would recruit while yelling: “Must be nice! Must be nice! You’ve got it sooo good!” It’s dangerous, so please stay away from the red-light district. m(_ _)m

It sounds like you’re considering starting your own business, so I don’t think your career would be going to waste. Your friend’s criticism seems off the mark to me. As for whether it’s irresponsible, that depends on what you consider “responsible.” If living life to the fullest means being true to yourself, then doing papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) is responsible, while not doing it would be irresponsible. I think doing papa-katsu and whether you can lead a respectable life are two separate matters. Some people do papa-katsu and still lead perfectly respectable lives, while others may not. Likewise, some people who don’t do papa-katsu may not lead respectable lives, while others do.