I accidentally accepted an offer from someone who lives far away—and he’s in his 60s, someone I would absolutely never consider. Since I’m a B, it won’t develop into an arrangement from the first meeting, and honestly, there probably won’t be a second meeting anyway. I haven’t even met him yet.

Since you messed up, you should go at least once. Have one of the local specialties and think of it as a little trip.

So, what’s your question? I don’t think seeking agreement counts as asking a question.

He doesn’t seem to have a very good reputation... I vaguely remember feedback saying that he takes advantage of people by saying things like, “I’m already paying for your bullet train fare, the offer fee, and various other expenses, so this should be enough, right?” Yet his allowance is low. If you can firmly turn him down, I think you should say clearly after dinner, “I’m B, so the first meeting is dinner only.” He probably assumes that women agree out of sympathy, and that anyone willing to come from far away must be kind and therefore willing to do H. Anyway, the fact that he brings up how much money he’s spending suggests he’s the type to take advantage of people, so I think you should be careful not to let him do that. > So I’d be the one traveling to meet him every time, right? I’m sure that’s how it would turn out.