I thought papa-katsu would ease my financial worries, but it has created a different kind of problem.

Some people are able to move on from failure, heartbreak, and jealousy, while others, like me, face their wounds head-on and keep living while tearing themselves apart. Neither approach is right or wrong—it’s simply a matter of choice. Facing my failures happened to work out well for me, but I can’t say whether it was the right answer. I may have been mentally strong by nature, and if I hadn’t been, it might have been better to skillfully avoid negative thoughts and feelings. “A healthy soul resides only in a healthy body.” When you feel lost or hurt, try strength training and running. It’s been medically proven, too—mild depression can improve with exercise. Get your body in shape first, and then think about what to do with your papa (a male supporter).