Have you ever had a long-distance papa become a generous (well-paying) papa? (Have you ever provided significant support to someone who lived far away?) I received a letter date request from someone in Tokyo or Nagoya, and we're planning to meet soon. I'm a B type, but if we can't meet again soon, I'm wondering whether I should move on to an arrangement on the first day. This is my first time with someone who lives far away, so I'd appreciate any advice or tips on how to build a deep, positive relationship even if we can't see each other often.

I’m a generous papa (a well-paying supporter) to a long-distance PJ. There aren’t really any tricks. If I like a girl, I give her a substantial allowance whether she lives nearby or far away. I have had a long-distance B-type girl invite me to an adult relationship (intimate) on our first date. I declined, but we still have a good relationship. The allowance is higher for girls who live far away. Since we can only meet twice a month at most, I have to make the pay-per-meeting allowance generous; otherwise, she wouldn’t consider me a generous papa.

For a date with someone who lives far away: Some men will pressure you for an adult relationship from the very first day, saying, “Since I’m already paying your actual transportation costs, isn’t that fair?” I feel they’re taking advantage of the woman’s consideration. If you’re a Type B, though, it means you intend to meet for dinner only the first time. So you’re perfectly entitled to say no—in fact, the general rule is not to ask for an adult relationship on the first date. Being considerate of the other person is a good thing, but I’m not sure you need to go that far for someone who’s taking advantage of you. If you’re going to agree to it from the first day just because they live far away, you might as well choose Type C from the beginning. Rather than whether the person lives far away, I think you should only agree to it on the first day if he seems like a good person and you genuinely want to. Please choose the option you won’t regret.