It’s been about 10 days since my interview, and I’ve received around four offers. I’ve already had a first meeting with one of them and have a second date planned. However, I don’t feel entirely comfortable with him, so I’m unsure whether to continue seeing him. He was the first person I met, and I’m worried that if I don’t find anyone else, I’ll regret turning him down after agreeing to a second date and wasting his time, even though I feel I should have decided after the first meeting. I’m finding it difficult to decline outright.

Until you figure out your own standards, just accept every offer for now. You’ll develop your criteria over time.

Does agreeing to meet a second time mean this is a Type B arrangement? If so, during your second date, you could say something like: “I’m not ready to make a decision today, but may I ask roughly how much the allowance would be?” Then, you could wrap up after dinner again and say that you’ll make your decision by the next time you meet. However, it’s probably best not to set a date for the next meeting yet. And you should go on dates with the other three men first. If you find that one of them isn’t really for you but the other three are a good fit, I think it’s fine to date those three and turn down the other one. On the other hand, after meeting the others, if you feel the first man wasn’t so bad after all—or that he offered the best allowance—then I think it would be fine to continue seeing him too. As a general rule, you shouldn’t narrow it down to just one man; seeing multiple men is standard. With that in mind, I recommend treating each offer as valuable whenever possible. That said, if there’s someone you absolutely feel you can’t deal with, you need to end things with him, or it will take a toll on your mental health. Please keep that in mind.

Since you’ve already made plans to meet a second time, I understand why it’s hard to turn him down. Why not tell him that your allowance for an adult relationship (intimate) is 100,000 yen or more per pay-per-meeting? If you could receive at least 100,000 yen each time, do you think you could put up with it and continue seeing him?

No one knows whether you’ll receive another offer in the future. I don’t think there’s any way to turn someone down when you don’t click without making them feel uncomfortable. The approach you’re considering—hearing the allowance he offers and then declining—is probably relatively safe, but even so, some people may still feel offended. You could also say that you’re on your period today, end the meeting without making plans for next time, and leave. But some people may still take offense at that as well. If you want to say that the terms didn’t match, I think you should decide in advance how much you’re willing to ask for. Even if you ask for 20 or more, the man might agree. You should also think about what you’ll do in that situation. It’s possible that the man may refuse and write about it in his feedback. However, I don’t think that would disadvantage you. If you’re really worried, you could leave feedback for the club, hidden from the man, saying something like, “We didn’t click, so I declined because our terms didn’t match.” I happened to find a pretty good suggestion in another question, so I’ll add it here: https://universe-club.jp/help/questions/view/11616 “I started to feel scared about having an adult relationship since it was my first time” seems like a story that would be less likely to make the other person uncomfortable.

Everyone cares about money, so don’t worry about it. You don’t have to force yourself to date someone you’re uncomfortable with. Since you’ve only just registered, you’ll probably still receive offers. Look for someone you can genuinely enjoy spending time with—someone who benefits you both, not just someone who offers money.