I’m a first-year college student. I once asked a cute, popular girl in my class—who’s in the same department and major as me—if she wanted to try papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), hoping to find a partner (she turned me down).

Please be more careful about who you approach. By now, there are probably rumors going around that talking to you will get someone recruited for papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan). Please be careful, or you may start feeling uncomfortable at your university. Though it may already be too late…

I think the person asking didn’t do a very good job of inviting her. When it’s a new woman and you wonder, “Why her?”, it usually turns out that someone she knows is already doing it. If you want to make money through Frain, like with a pyramid scheme, you’ll just have to find the next target whenever things don’t work out. It might spread eventually and cost you some friends, though…

Introducing papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) outright to someone who isn’t interested in it makes you seem like you don’t understand the world very well… Normally, if they ask something like, “You’ve been wearing some really nice clothes lately. How come?” you would start by explaining that there’s something called papa-katsu where you can get paid just for having meals with men. Then, if they say, “I’d like to try it too,” you could give them a general idea: “Even so, it’s pretty hard to get men to come if you’re only offering dinner. It can be quite challenging. I was lucky enough to find a papa (a male supporter) who only wanted dinner, but from what I’ve heard, it’s difficult unless you’re willing to have an adult relationship (intimate).” Then you could steer the conversation toward, “Apparently, there are still a few men who are fine with dinner only (no intimacy), so why don’t you register and see how it goes?” Isn’t that basically how it should be handled? Also, in the past, some of the friends I introduced even came along with me to the interview, so I think you also need to take the attitude of teaching them as a more experienced person.

You’d back off if it looked like you were about to be sold, right? I think you should observe the other person before inviting them.