I probably won’t be able to meet the man I have a monthly arrangement with this month. That’s because my papa (a male supporter) caught COVID and is refraining from meeting anyone this month.
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We’ve known each other for about six months.
He keeps messaging me, saying he wants to see me next month.
In this case, since we can’t meet, there’s no way for me to receive anything, so does that mean I won’t get this month’s allowance?
Things are financially difficult for me, so I’d like to receive it if possible, but I can’t bring myself to say that...
I thought that with a monthly arrangement, there was enough trust between us that I’d receive a fixed amount regardless of whether we met that month or how many times we met. Does this mean I simply haven’t been putting in enough effort..?
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Without even worrying about your papa’s health, how cold-hearted can you be to think, “Am I not going to get paid?”
Even if it’s nothing more than an ordinary cold, that’s beside the point. Your papa is feeling very lonely right now, so this is the perfect time to take advantage of his emotions. Come on, get to work—show him lots of concern.
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First of all, I wouldn’t recommend relying on papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) for a stable income.
Even with a monthly arrangement, whether he’ll give you an allowance when you can’t meet depends on the man.
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If you had originally arranged to receive the allowance by bank transfer, he might have sent it even if you couldn’t meet.
That said, some men may not want to pay a monthly allowance if they didn’t meet you even once that month, so I think it would have been better to clarify that from the beginning.
From what you’ve said, I’m guessing he asked you not to see other men in exchange for making it a monthly arrangement.
If that’s the case, it may be worth taking the risk—since there’s a possibility the relationship could end—and asking something like:
“I’m going to have a hard time this month without an allowance. Would it be okay if I looked for another papa?”
He might even say, “Send me your bank details,” and transfer the money.
However, there’s also a chance that could end the relationship, so if possible, I think it would be better to quietly look for another man.
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Oh, so your first concern is money.
If I were a woman doing papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), I’d try to repay his kindness without asking for an allowance. Of course, there’d be some calculation behind it.
I might get something in return immediately for that attitude and those actions, or I might see a payoff later on.
This isn’t a part-time job where you get paid by the hour. Use your head. You don’t know whether it’ll pay off, but explore the possibilities.
These days, people tend to think of work as something you do for money first and foremost. It’s normal to work now and get paid next month as a result.
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I don’t think it’s about how hard you try—it’s about whether the man is willing to think about the situation.
Personally, if it’s a monthly arrangement, I believe the allowance should still be paid even when you can’t meet due to his circumstances.
Why not subtly hint that you’re feeling broke and struggling without your allowance?
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