I’m too easy on myself and keep going out late at night.
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But everyone seems to relieve their stress by going out at night. I’m really feeling that firsthand right now.
But I’ve realized that going out late at night ruins my skin, makes me look sloppy, and has no real benefits.
When I say “going out at night,” I don’t mean sex—it’s more like wandering around late at night.
Did all of you successful people become successful because you aren’t too easy on yourselves?
Are all adults out having fun? Of course not. The grass is always greener on the other side.
I don’t go out partying at night. I’m not comfortable in dark places, and I’d hate to see some strange white mist, so I try to head home as early as possible. I find it more enjoyable to relax in the bathtub for a long time.
Otherwise, work keeps me so busy that I can’t clear my head.
How long are you planning to keep moping around like this? Don’t you feel empty?
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Do you really think half of them are into nightlife?
I find games, books, and movies at home much more enjoyable. That’s all I do.
Why not try finding another hobby?
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Strike a balance.
In Ginza’s nightlife scene, I sometimes spend time with business owners who are incredibly energetic—both when they’re out having fun and when they’re working.
Fuu gets sleepy around midnight, but some people party until almost morning and then throw themselves into work afterward.
It’s exhausting to stay tense all the time. Why not set aside a cheat day, let loose and enjoy the nightlife to the fullest once in a while, then focus fully when it’s time to work?
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Could it be the same person as before? I can tell from the writing style.
I seem to remember them saying they were “leaving the message board,” but I wonder what happened…
To meet people from here in real life, you’d have to sign up for a dating club and send them unsolicited offers. But I feel like the person asking this question doesn’t quite have the initiative for that yet.
So it might be better to find somewhere else to rely on. What do you think?
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I work a normal job all 365 days of the year, but what matters even more to me is strength training and running. I always give them my all.
Even a monkey could make money from a sudden windfall, but if you want to keep earning over the long term, stamina and good health are what matter most.
That said, I’ve never once thought of myself as successful.
Just because I’ve reached the point where I can spend around 40 million yen a year on papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) doesn’t mean I consider myself successful.
Besides, I’m extremely easy on myself. I mean, I do papa-katsu. When I’m doing it, I’m not working or training, so it’s basically time spent slacking off. There are people out there working hard during that time, so I know I’m being far too indulgent with myself.
I used to be near the top of Japan in a certain field. I could probably call myself the best in Japan without anyone objecting, but I’ll stick with “near the top.”
Still, I couldn’t compete on the world stage, and there were a few people in Japan who were better than me, so if anything, I feel more defeated than successful.
Even as a papa (a male supporter), there’s an absolutely incredible papa close to me, so 40 million yen is an embarrassing figure by comparison.
If I were to evaluate myself very generously, I’d say I’m not a one-hit wonder but a two-hit wonder. I’m now at the starting point of my second hit.
Not many people can succeed a second time in a completely different field, so that’s the one thing I can genuinely give myself credit for.
One last thing—and this is important.
“Luck.”
That’s what you need to succeed. I think I’m very lucky. The fact that I managed to score a second success with enough effort to have the financial freedom to do papa-katsu is simply down to luck.
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I think I’m too easy on myself.
That said, I tend to pursue the things I enjoy obsessively, so I feel that’s why things have worked out well for me.
By the way, I left my nightlife days behind when I was around thirty.
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Some people may have succeeded because they’re not easy on themselves, while others may not have.
I can be lenient with myself at times, but when there’s something I care about, I’m extremely particular about it.
Tokyo stays bright even at night, so I imagine going out at night is fun there.
Recently, I was transferred to a somewhat rural area of Aichi for work, and it’s completely dark around here by 9 p.m. I don’t even feel like going out at night anymore, haha.
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I think it’s because I still work even when I’m wandering around late at night. I go to work even when I’m sleep-deprived. Somehow, I’m more productive when I’m feeling a little under the weather.
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