Lots of women in papa-katsu brag on social media about receiving expensive gifts, but are there really papas who give them things like that?

Hmm, even someone ordinary like me gets generous allowances sometimes. I’m not exceptionally beautiful or model-thin or anything. As long as you fall within your partner’s strike zone—whether that’s high and inside or low and outside—the possibilities can open up from there. If you’re not in their strike zone at all, nothing can begin. Even if you’re not right down the middle, once you receive an offer, that’s where a PJ can show what she’s capable of, don’t you think? Whether you go for a genuine-romance approach, maintain an unattainable-flower image, or choose some other strategy is something each woman needs to think through. What I always say is that there are people like me, who do fairly well just by being natural and following their instincts, and people like Aya, who use amazingly precise interactions that play on their partner’s psychology to receive generous allowances and expensive gifts. I don’t think the latter is possible unless you’re smart. I recommend thinking about what kind of person you are and what approach would work best for you. Marika

I’m Aya, a female member. I’m mostly a lurker on Twitter and never tweet about papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan). The bragging on papa-katsu accounts sounds pretty fake. You can’t possibly get presents every single day, and there’s even a theory that some of those accounts are run by scouts. That said, I do think it’s possible to build trust over a long-term arrangement and eventually receive a big present once a year for occasions like your birthday or Christmas. Getting piles of presents every week or every month, like on those papa-katsu accounts, is unrealistic. But a luxury watch once a year, or ¥1–2 million, doesn’t seem impossible. To meet a wealthy papa (a male supporter) like that, I think it’s important not only for the woman to register at the highest possible tier, but also to be prepared to devote herself to him. At that point, your looks no longer matter. I don’t even like my own face, and if I didn’t have my current papa, I probably would have gotten breast augmentation or other cosmetic surgery.

Women who receive that kind of money don’t brag about it on social media. I consider myself wealthy, but I live in an ordinary one-room apartment that makes you think, “Wait, here?” The only people who know I have money are my monthly arrangement partner and my mother. I’ve never given my monthly arrangement partner a ¥1 million gift, though I’ve given her cash many times. It’s easy to identify someone from their social media, so: Bragging ≒ lying is almost certainly true.

It’s not only the girls who want to show off. Papas want to brag too—Jo is no exception. The most expensive gift I ever gave was a car. It cost seven figures in yen, so it should count as a luxury car. That said, her current car cost eight figures, and it seems she traded in the car Jo gave her, lol. There’s no end to comparing yourself with those above you. That applies to both the giver and the recipient. The most important thing about a gift is the thought behind it. At least, I have to believe that neither that woman nor Jo shared any real feelings or connection beyond the arrangement—or I couldn’t live with myself, haha. I hope your relationship with your papa is a peaceful one with at least some genuine emotional connection.