I’m Taro, a male member.
Before intimacy, it varies. With some women, it happens the same day, while others take longer even if they’re in the same category. The longest was probably around five dates.
After intimacy, I feel there’s another shift around the third to fifth time. Their reactions during intimacy change. Rather than opening up emotionally, I think it’s more a sense of reassurance that they’ve gotten a feel for how things work between us.
Then, around the tenth meeting or after about six months of seeing each other, there seems to be another turning point. It’s almost like they’re opening up—or checking, “It’s okay to trust him, right?” They start holding my hand, gazing at me, or having slightly flirtatious conversations over LINE… The relationship starts to feel a little more romantic.
If I reach that point without actually liking her very much, I can’t respond properly—I end up brushing it off. Maybe the woman can sense that too, because this is also when some suddenly stop being available. On the other hand, if I respond sincerely, the relationship deepens all at once.
After about two or three years, there seems to be yet another stage of closeness. We start speaking casually in everyday messages, for example. Or she might allow NN just once, even though she normally wouldn’t. Sometimes she’ll suddenly reveal things she had kept hidden: that her previous partner was 73, that she used to work nights, or that someone had posted private details about her online.
I feel this is around the point when “love” turns into “affection.”
After about ten years, it’s basically a bond that’s impossible to break. Let’s say she accidentally passes gas during intimacy. I noticed because I felt a cool breeze behind my scrotum. Even so, she doesn’t apologize, and I just hold my breath while the cloud passes, then forget about it afterward—the relationship is that comfortable. (The Breath of Farting, First Form.)
I’m truly sorry. Thank you very much.
With my first papa, it was that way from the beginning.
With the others, it gradually developed after the second or third meeting.
There are also a few who, after quite some time—several months—started being open about sexual topics. When I responded in kind, we gradually became more intimate.
Marika
