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Jan 6, 2022 10:52
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I only feel love during sex when it’s with someone I actually like. Even when I have sex with a papa or a friends-with-benefits partner, I don’t feel anything in particular.
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🏅 パパ活歴8年目突入
彼氏/既婚/他パパ/セフレOK/全力応援
Age: 50s
👨 Male
Universe member
This is Fuu, a columnist.
You don’t feel anything?
You have a friends-with-benefits partner even though it doesn’t feel good?
How curious~
With papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), going as far as love or romance may be too much, but I do think it’s nice to have things like:
・Someone you can trust
・Someone you genuinely like as a person
・Someone you enjoy spending time with
・Intimacy that feels good
It is a relationship involving an allowance, but it suits people who can enjoy themselves. And when your papa can tell that you’re having a good time, he’ll be happy too—and I think he’ll treat you well.
A~Dまで一通りオファーの経験あり、多くても月1程度でLINEはスケジュール調整のみ、スマートに無理なく長期交際するスタイルです。
Age: 50s
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m Dai, a male member.
I think it’s more a matter of your disposition—or the way you think.
It simply sounds like papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) isn’t right for you.
You’d be better off thinking about other ways to earn money.
あや
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Other
I’m Aya, a female member.
I’ve always liked talking with people, and I’m probably pretty good at listening to them. Maybe I also tend to believe that people are basically good. For better or worse, I trust people easily. And, of course, the amount of the allowance is another big factor.
You might feel differently too if you were receiving, say, 2 million yen a month.
I’ve never had a friends-with-benefits relationship, so I’m not really sure.
🏅 プロおぢ。ほんとはプロパパと名乗りたいけど名乗るほどの実力がない名古屋の汚っさんです。
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m a male member who’s basically a loser.
“In my case,” the more I love a woman, the less often we have H, and the more often we go on regular dates without an adult relationship (intimate).
So I don’t have H very often with my favorite ace. I’m nurturing this thing called “love,” which is considered gross in papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan). I don’t know whether I’m actually nurturing it, but I’m doing it for my own satisfaction (汗).
I enjoy H with my other ten monthly arrangements. Of course, I don’t seek love from them.
With every woman, I prepare as thoroughly as possible and do everything I can—and then some—to make sure she never feels miserable. I also give them a generous allowance, the kind they probably wouldn’t receive from other papas.