I’m Dai, a male member.
Nothing good comes from envying others.
Rather than letting it stress you out, I think the best thing is to appreciate the man who’s currently giving you an allowance.
From a papa’s perspective, I think they generally feel, “I’ll buy you whatever you want, whenever you want.” (Depending on the situation, they really can buy you anything.)
But when a woman gives off the kind of vibe I sense from you—the questioner—it makes them lose the desire to buy her anything.
It’s like how you naturally want to give candy to a child who’s genuinely happy to receive it. It matters whether she shows sincere surprise and delight even over small things.
If your true intentions are seen through, you’re not going to receive many presents. You should let go of that naive expectation. It’s stressful for the papa, too.
—Paper Airplane
At Universe, you’ll find all kinds of people: on the men’s side, there are so-called “generous papas,” like Aya’s papa or Mr. Saito♪, as well as ordinary salarymen who have to manage within their personal spending money. On the women’s side, there are women from the nightlife industry who are well above average in both looks and spending habits, along with ordinary students and office workers.
When a generous papa is dating a nightlife-oriented papa-katsu girl, or a salaryman is dating an ordinary student, nothing in particular happens.
But when an ordinary woman catches the eye of a generous papa, an incredible world may open up to her. On the other hand, if a salaryman and a nightlife-oriented girl happen to meet, it’s hard to imagine things working out. Still, they might be able to continue by taking a different approach from that of an ordinary papa—such as focusing on being comforting or listening to his problems.
So, for now, all you can do is maintain a good relationship with your current papa while waiting for a better one to come along. But things that seem like dreams don’t happen very often, so I think being content with an arrangement that matches your circumstances, instead of constantly complaining, can also help reduce stress.
To receive a high allowance through your own efforts, I think what matters is having an appearance your papa likes—not necessarily being conventionally beautiful—along with thoughtfulness, and the intelligence to understand his feelings and handle the give-and-take.
Being thoughtful and being good at reading the situation are similar in that both involve considering the other person’s feelings and staying one step ahead. Some people can do this naturally, without even thinking about it, and they’re also likely to maintain long-term relationships with papas who pay a high allowance.
But realistically, that sounds difficult, doesn’t it?
Please be grateful for the papa you have now.
Marika
It’s Joe.
If this were at a bar in Shimbashi, you’d have a chorus of tipsy older gentlemen telling you, “If it’s stressing you out, then quit.” How embarrassing.
I’m Aya, a female member.
I’m sure the person asking this question is honest and sweet. I think a good papa (male supporter) will come along eventually for someone like that.
But lately, I’ve been thinking… I’m already around thirty, yet I’ve become so close to the papas through papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) that my desire to get married keeps fading further away. At this point, I don’t think I could ever want a life like “a husband, two kids, buying a 40–50 million yen used condo in the suburbs of Tokyo, and gardening as a hobby.”
Sometimes, that kind of life looks dazzling to me.
P.S.
Following Marika’s observation, I guess I’m the case of an “ordinary woman” meeting a generous (well-paying) papa.
My papa has only ever dated women in the nightlife industry, so I think an ordinary person like me probably feels refreshing to him.
