Would knowing that she isn’t single make you want to change the allowance amount?
Also, many people want to know where I live or work. I’ve been blamed for not telling them, and someone even checked my drop-off location through a taxi app.
Why do they want to know where I live or work?
I’m Dai, a male member.
I have dated women who were married.
To be honest, part of me would rather not know about it. I don’t want to get caught up in anything complicated…
I’d be comfortable dating a woman as long as she seems to be taking proper care to keep it from being discovered.
Basically, I don’t pry into unnecessary details. Wanting to know where she lives or works isn’t because she’s married—it’s simply that some men want to know those things.
Her allowance doesn’t change just because she’s married.
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I’m a male member—and a total loser at this.
I’m sure some people will get annoyed if I refer to them as the No. 1 and No. 2 girls, but I can’t really get started without putting it that way, so please forgive me.
The No. 1 (my ace) and No. 2 (my former ace, whom I got back together with) both voluntarily gave me all their personal information. I never asked.
They took a huge gamble, and perhaps partly because of that, it’s a fact that they’ve been able to receive a substantial allowance from me.
When a woman shows that much resolve, a man can’t just fail to reciprocate.
That said, it wouldn’t be okay for a man to ask for that information, right? I’ve never asked even once. I don’t share my personal information with them either.
At the beginning of my papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), I didn’t care whether someone was married, but after getting caught up in some trouble, I made married women a deal-breaker.
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I’m Flagmaker, a column writer.
The more serious things get, the better it is not to know too much about the other person’s personal information. That way, you can part ways more cleanly.
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I’m Aya, a female member.
Some men believe that getting closer means learning where you live or work.
They’ll say something like, “I’ll tell you mine, so you tell me yours.” But you’re better off avoiding men who blame you just because you won’t share your address. They seem like the type to get angry over other trivial, unreasonable things too.
Besides, wouldn’t that man himself dislike being asked about his home, workplace, family situation, or income the first time he met someone? At any rate, I think it’s fine to ignore any papa (a male supporter) who can’t make it a give-and-take.
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I’m Nana Ayase ♡
As for whether you can date a married man…
You haven’t registered yet, right? Married men make offers, and some single men don’t receive any, so please come in for an interview first.
You mentioned earlier that your photo was posted on Twitter.
There’s also a chance that your face, home, or workplace could end up being posted on Twitter or elsewhere… That’s scary…
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If you don’t know where the other person lives or works, it can’t really be called a relationship—it’s merely a relationship where you meet because money is involved.
It’s a little sad, isn’t it?
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I’m Taro, a male member.
I’ve never dated a married woman, and the same goes for women who have boyfriends. I wouldn’t want someone to do that if I were in the other man’s position, so I don’t want to do it either.
On the surface, a dating club relationship resembles the sex industry—you have sex and give her an allowance. But once feelings get involved, you start struggling because you want some reassurance that it’s different from working in the sex industry. Personal information is one example, such as where she lives or works. Having unprotected sex is another. I suppose taking risks you wouldn’t take without trust can feel like a way of confirming her affection. I know it’s a distorted way of thinking, but I do believe it’s fairly common in the early stages of relationships that begin this way.
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