I’m NANA Ayase☆
Was this through an app or Universe Club? What’s your gender and age range? I’d like a few more hints.
Universe doesn’t call it a “first meeting,” though. But their general rule is that the meeting lasts about four hours, from the start until you leave.
You were told they had dinner plans starting at 9 p.m., right? That’s just a polite way of turning you down. Even with Universe, people say they have plans afterward when they want to decline.
Maezawa from the executive office here.
At Universe, they ask you to leave four hours open for the first date.
In reality, once the first meal is over, the relationship is up to the two of you, so you’re free to leave whenever you want.
The reason they say four hours is that men may not be satisfied if, after inviting you to an adult relationship (intimate), you say, “I don’t have enough time today, so I’m going home.”
If you had kept the time open but turned him down because your allowance expectations didn’t match, or because he wasn’t your type in terms of appearance or personality, that would be understandable. But if you say you have no time or had other plans, it makes him feel that you only intended to have dinner from the start.
In this case, it was two hours plus another hour and a half, so it was within the four-hour window. However, since the meal was already over, the two of you had moved on to deciding things between yourselves, so it would have been fine to leave after dinner.
That said, if the man interprets “It’s getting late, so…” as meaning you hadn’t actually kept four hours open, he may file a complaint.
It might be better to put it more directly, like: “Since you didn’t invite me to an adult relationship (intimate), I’m going to head home.”
There is a chance he won’t invite you again because of this. But if he was only keeping you company until he met someone else, I don’t think you were missing out on much by not seeing him again.
I’m Fuu, a column writer.
Since apps are basically lawless and have no set rules, it’s hard to say.
Universe has a rule that the first date can last up to four hours, so please let your partner know that anything longer isn’t possible.
I’m a Type C, so my usual arrangement is:
- Meal: 1–1.5 hours
- Private time: 2–2.5 hours
Unless we’re doing something special, like going to a day spa, it’s usually within four hours.
I’m Kazu, a male member.
The phrase “first meeting” really does sound like something someone who’s used dating apps would say.
For a first date, I usually allow just under two hours for dinner, or around four hours total if there’s anything afterward.
You were told to keep four hours free, right? So if you’re meeting at 6 p.m., I think it’s perfectly fine to say, “I’ve only set aside time until 10 p.m.”
If she seems like a good person, you could be flexible, but since you’re asking this question, I’m guessing you’re not that interested in her.
