I’m Dai, a male member.
There’s nothing to gain from envying others.
Like Marika, I also think papa-katsu is best suited to women who like older men.
The key to making a relationship last is probably for both people to maintain an arrangement that feels comfortable and manageable.
Don’t try to have it all:
A large allowance
Gifts
His assets
Exclusive love
Your papa’s connections, and so on.
Also, I don’t think this kind of arrangement lasts for people who mistake getting a glimpse into a different world thanks to their papa for having become important themselves.
—Akari
The key to enjoying papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) is being comfortable with dating older men in real life.
For example, a university student might secretly meet with a professor who asked her out, or a working woman might have an affair with her boss—in other words, being popular with older men.
But later, you’ll realize that those kinds of relationships offer women no real benefits.
A dating club lets you move beyond that. You can date attractive older men while receiving an allowance, making it a very comfortable arrangement.
I think people who genuinely enjoy dating older men are well suited to dating clubs.
Marika
I’m Aya, a female member.
I was talking with my papa yesterday, and he seems to believe that “women should have children.” He said he feels conflicted about the fact that, by being with him, I’m getting older without having children.
So he said that, at the very least, while I’m with him, he wants to help me build up plenty of savings, so that even after we part ways, I’ll be left with happy memories and financial security.
I’ve had very little feeling, ever since I was in high school, that I “have to have children,” so I don’t really understand how my papa feels.
But if I imagine how things might go, I get the sense that we’ll either break up within the next few years or stay together for another 10 or 15 years.
With another papa I’m very close to, we have an even more best-friend-like relationship, so sometimes I think we might be able to stay together for around 20 years if I never have children.
I’m the type of person who throws myself into living every day, for better or worse, and I’m also rather awkward and easily taken advantage of. I tend to trust people too quickly. I don’t know why, but certain people seem to intensely dislike me.
That caused me a lot of pain, but apparently this side of my personality is amusing to my papas. For some reason, they liked that I’m not the savvy, smooth type of woman.
My papas often worry about me, saying things like, “You’re seriously so uncool,” or, “Are you going to be okay…?” They sometimes say that there’s something endearing about the way I try so hard to live my life.
So I do think that, in general, more capable, socially savvy women are likely to earn more. But even if the person asking this question is awkward like me, I think there are definitely people out there who will come to love that quality. Sorry for the long post.
I’m Kazu, a male member.
I think the right kind of person isn’t someone who wants to be like [Name], but someone who lives by being true to themselves.
I also think people who aren’t too demanding are well suited for it.
