When Mac talks about a year or six months, doesn’t that really count as a long-term relationship?
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The other day, I ended things after dating a man in his early 30s with a pig-like face for a year and a half because I really did find him creepy. I told him, “Honestly, your face and your entire appearance are disgusting, and it’s painful to look at you. Seeing you was nothing more than a way to kill time.” There hadn’t been any argument or anything. I just thought every time I saw him, “He looks gross again today. What an ugly face.” The man was left completely stunned. We had met countless times, gone on lots of trips, and had plenty of dates that didn’t involve sex, so he had apparently convinced himself that we were close. To me, he was just one of those boring men who would give me better money than a part-time job if I met him on a day I had nothing else to do.
I’m a university student in my early 20s, and I get my sexual needs met by my boyfriend and a casual sex partner, both in their 20s, so a papa (a male supporter) is nothing more than an ATM to me.
It’s only natural for these relationships to last longer than ordinary boyfriend-girlfriend relationships because they come with an allowance. Does just lasting six months or a year count as a long-term relationship in the papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) world? To me, I’d feel like I didn’t dislike a man if things lasted four or five years.
I’m Maezawa from the CEO’s office, and I’ll answer this as well.
> Isn’t dating for a year or six months not really a long-term relationship?
It depends on where you draw the line.
If you’re comparing it to arrangements that end after three meetings—or after just one—then six months or a year is long-term.
Besides, if the duration is already stated, I don’t really see the point in objecting that it doesn’t count as long-term.
Would you be satisfied if someone simply said, “A year isn’t long-term”?
Whether it’s long-term or not doesn’t really matter. It seems like knowing how long the arrangement lasted is all that matters.
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It probably varies from person to person.
Some may average 3.4 years, while others may average more than 20 years.
And there are probably people who never break things off and continue seeing everyone indefinitely.
So, did writing this make you feel better??
Paper Airplane
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I’m Fuu, a columnist.
Yes, in papa-katsu, lasting a full year is actually considered quite long.
Are you a member of a club, by any chance?
Since the women are young, they often go through major life events and changes in their circumstances—starting a job, being transferred, getting married, getting a boyfriend, and so on.
Some decide how much money they want to save and quit once they reach that goal. Others simply get tired of it midway through or have their identity exposed.
You’re very patient—good for you! How did you manage to stay with such a creepy papa for a whole year and a half?
Poor thing. I imagine either you didn’t get any offers from better papas, or you had far too much free time.
At least having your needs met by a friend with benefits was some consolation. I’m glad for you!
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She may still be preferable to a woman who keeps having one-night-stand-type sex, but there’s no need to storm off with parting shots or post vulgar, gripe-filled questions here just to vent your frustration.
If you don’t like it, quit and get a low-paying hourly job the honest way. That’s all there is to it.
Marika
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I’m Aya, a female member.
Personally, six months still feels pretty short, and I’d say a year is just about average. Once it’s been over two years, it starts to feel special—you’ve gone through all four seasons twice together.
Another thing that’s common among women is suddenly getting fed up and ending things. But that’s just how it looks from the man’s perspective. From the woman’s point of view, she probably wasn’t that into him to begin with, or she’d been putting up with things and going along with him until she finally reached her limit. That much I understand.
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