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Dec 11, 2021 13:34
7 answers
茉莉花
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At that pace, I’d keep things going with about one exchange a day. If even that starts to feel like too much, it may be time to consider ending things.
I once had someone send me a full-screen’s worth of LINE messages every day, along with tons of photos, comments about the photos, and their thoughts on the museums and art galleries they’d visited. It became exhausting just to read everything, so I ended things.
Jasmine
🏅 パパ活歴8年目突入
彼氏/既婚/他パパ/セフレOK/全力応援
Age: 50s
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m Fuu, a column writer.
After having an adult relationship (intimate), gradually steer things toward less frequent contact.
If your papa (a male supporter) is okay with the adult relationship and can put up with not hearing from you as often, things may continue.
Tell him why you can’t message on LINE—because you’re busy with work, for example—and leave his messages unread more often. Hopefully, he’ll eventually give up...
A～Dまで一通りオファーの経験あり、多くても月１程度でLINEはスケジュール調整のみ、スマートに無理なく長期交際するスタイルです。
Age: 50s
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m Dai, a male member.
The basic rule of communication is to say things directly.
If you want to continue seeing him, I think it would be best to tell him in person that you’d like him to stop messaging you on LINE every day.
You only have to put up with it for about one more week.
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m Kazu, a male member.
He’s certainly persistent.
Even so, he must be someone you’d consider having an adult relationship (intimate) with.
Before turning him down outright, why not try leaving his messages unread?
🏅 あなたの味方
お役に立てれば幸いです。
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe staff
Maezawa from the CEO’s office here.
If it’s a hassle, I think you could simply leave the messages unread. You can read them without marking them as read, and even the notification preview should give you some idea of whether they’re important.
You could also decide not to mark anything as read unless it’s about scheduling.
Or just say something like, “I’ve been busy and haven’t had a chance to check yet…”
🏅 大阪の昼寝引きこもりトレーダー
スペ90以下のひとを厚く囲い込み、一生面倒見て実質一夫多妻で大切にしたい独身です。
Age: 50s
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m in Seattle.
Until I get the money next time, I’ll play nice, win him over, and then gently let him know I won’t be replying anymore.
Still, there’s a 90% chance that someone this clueless is a low-paying papa, though there’s a 10% chance he could be a generous (well-paying) papa.
フラグメーカー
Male
Column
🏅 ４０歳でリアル異世界転生したオッサン l 元金融マン → 現ＡＩ界隈
出張ホストの実技試験合格してるので、対女性への無難な前戯とかマナーに一定の知見あり。
Age: 40s
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m Flag Maker, a columnist.
Your relationship is still just getting started, right? Why not give it a chance for now and see where it goes? If it doesn’t lead anywhere, you can always part ways then.
You know, even many women who are doing well in papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) struggled at first (or so I assume). Let’s try putting up with the annoying parts for now.
If you reject someone based solely on your criteria, you may occasionally miss out. Wouldn’t it be better to get to know him a little more before cutting him loose?