If I lie about working nights or put something different on my profile, will people be able to tell when we meet? Can they tell at a glance that I work in the sex industry?

I’m columnist Fuu. If you don’t mention it in your profile, your papas probably won’t know at first. However, they may figure it out after you’ve had an adult relationship a few times, or if inconsistencies start to appear during a long-term arrangement. If you don’t think you can keep it hidden convincingly, you may feel more at ease mentioning it in your profile or telling them when you start seeing each other. If you keep quiet, I imagine your papa may eventually realize you work in the adult-entertainment industry, and the relationship could end midway. Many papas—including Fuu—won’t offer an arrangement to someone in that line of work, but there are also a certain number who will. Please think it over and choose what feels right for you.

I’m Dai, a male member. Are you asking whether she wants to register while keeping it hidden? I generally avoid making offers to women with experience in the sex industry or nightlife businesses, but if they’ve managed to keep it hidden and I only find out later, it doesn’t particularly bother me. As for sex work, she just needs to avoid doing things that make me think, “Has she done this before?” when having an adult relationship. For example, coming out of the shower to greet you with a towel, haha. I also occasionally see women who provide the full experience in the sex industry for free or an extra ¥10,000, but say they don’t want an adult relationship through a dating club. I don’t want to make an offer to someone who feels like she’s selling her body, either. With nightlife workers, I get the impression that they demand shopping dates or gifts and draw things out for money rather than easily moving toward an adult relationship. I’m not looking to date flashy women in the first place, so I’d rather not make an offer.

I’m Kazu, a male member. You can tell if you’ve been seeing someone for a while and have gotten to know them fairly well. At first glance, you might suspect it, but you can’t be sure.

I’ll answer as Maezawa from Shachoshitsu. I think it depends on whether by “night work” you mean working in the nightlife industry or in adult entertainment. The only time it would be immediately obvious is probably if you showed up to a date dressed like a hostess. Normally, the only people who could tell at a glance would be experts who have spent a great deal of time around adult-entertainment venues or hostess clubs. On the other hand, people at that level probably aren’t prejudiced against night work, so even if they found out, I don’t think it would cause much trouble. That said, even an ordinary person might start to wonder, “Huh?” as they spend more time with you. So there is a chance they could figure it out from little things like that. In that case, you could probably just say that you used to do it but don’t anymore. I think the most likely way to get found out would be something like accidentally being recognized from a photo at the entrance or a picture in a magazine.