I thought we had made up and regained her interest, but she disappeared. Put bluntly, I made her develop romantic feelings and had unprotected sex with her without giving her an allowance. When it suited me—and often, every day—we were together. I had her living on a different floor.

I’m Flag Maker, a column writer. Apologize again, provide proof that you’ve cut ties with the other woman, and even give her your phone password so she can look through it whenever she wants. On top of that, submit a copy of your family register to prove your marriage history and other details, then write and hand her a pledge saying something like, “I will never cheat. If I do, I’ll ___.” At the very least, I think you need to go this far.

I’m だて◎ゆめ, a male member. Anything is fine, but instead of calling it “pseudo-romance,” I think it should simply be described as a genuinely transactional relationship.

I’m Dai, a male member. You’re probably just assuming that your messages are still connected. Try sending her a random sticker as a gift. If it says she already has that sticker, congratulations—you’ve been blocked. Whether it’s you or that woman, I just hope you’re both truly capable of caring for a cat. Since you claim to love animals, I hope it doesn’t end up being put down at an animal shelter.

I’m Shingo Lee, a columnist. Why do you still think you can be saved? Once you’ve apologized and made amends, disappear. That would be the greatest atonement. Just because you haven’t been blocked on LINE, don’t assume you still have a chance. And even if you were forgiven, you’d only take advantage of them again when it suited you, wouldn’t you? Stop pretending to be a good person.

I’m Maezawa from the President’s Office, and I’ll answer this one too. > After I contracted an STD, she looked through my phone, saw my conversations with other women, and started falling apart. This is absolutely the worst. I imagine she brought up using condoms because women are afraid of STDs. At that point, you probably told her things like, “I don’t have unprotected sex with other women, so you don’t have to worry about STDs.” She believed you, agreed to have sex without a condom, and then accepted not receiving an allowance because you told her she was your girlfriend. And yet she still ended up with an STD, while you were simultaneously seeing other women. That is 100% a betrayal. I don’t see anything about this situation that could possibly defend you. On top of that, you gave allowances to the other women but not to her, right? After treating her that badly, replacing the bed with a nicer one doesn’t even come close to making up for it. When I say compensation for emotional damages, you might think that doesn’t apply because this wasn’t that kind of relationship. But compensation is simply money offered as an apology for the emotional harm you caused someone. In that sense, I don’t think the bed was really for her benefit. You say you bought her expensive things she wanted—but how expensive were they? A Bentley, a Porsche, or some other imported luxury car? A Birkin bag? Then I saw the phrase, “And to top it all off, a cat,” which makes me think these “expensive” gifts weren’t actually all that expensive—probably only worth a few hundred thousand yen at most. I don’t know how many years you were together, but if it was one year, you should have handed her six million yen in cash as compensation; if it was two years, twelve million yen. Then you should have sincerely apologized, deleted all your LINE conversations with the other women, and shown enough backbone to start over from there. Even after doing all that, she might still refuse to forgive you and leave. But what you did was that serious of a betrayal. It seems like you still don’t understand that. Betraying someone who trusted you is an incredibly cruel thing to do. Of course, if you’re not prepared to go that far, then I imagine the relationship will simply end. But if you’re walking alone at night, you’d better watch your back. At this point, if you suddenly got stabbed, you wouldn’t exactly be in a position to complain.

If any girls are reading this, I’d absolutely warn them not to go back. Marika Rereading it has made me sick all over again. Is he seriously not embarrassed to post this here? He deceived her, had unprotected sex with her without paying, gave her an STI, and then, just when I thought he was confessing by giving her something she wanted, he says, “And to top it all off…” Ugh. This is some truly appalling behavior—I haven’t seen anything this awful in a long time. I’m sorry, but I couldn’t answer the question itself.

I’m Paper Airplane, a male member whose wife usually tears him to shreds, but whenever we travel, she keeps praising me nonstop: “As expected of you! You did it! Amazing!” The moment you gave her a cat, it was already over. You can never beat a cat. Just give up. Then go completely no-contact for about six months before reaching out again. If you managed to convey your appeal, getting things back to the way they were isn’t impossible.

After treating me like I was convenient, do you really think material things will make my feelings come back? Cut ties with everyone, get divorced, and only talk to me once you’ve decided you’re ready to cherish me for good. You made me develop romantic feelings for you… You have money, don’t you? Just pay the allowance and keep as many women around as you want. Akari