I have a question about women’s profiles.

If you want a long-term arrangement, you can keep seeing someone for a long time by adapting to the woman you meet. In other words, you can have a long-term arrangement with anyone—you just aren’t making the effort to adapt. Whether that makes for a good relationship is another matter. Once you learn to do that, you’ll also be able to choose partners who are suited to a long-term arrangement. Personally, though, I find that women who would make for genuinely good relationships often don’t stay in papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) for very long. So the shortcut to making papa-katsu last is either to become the kind of papa a professional papa-katsu girl appreciates, or to adapt to women who don’t get many offers.

First of all, the number of stars on Universe is determined by the men’s feedback immediately after their first meeting. (Of course, things like canceling at the last minute on the day of the meeting seem to result in a major deduction by the club.) In other words, whether she gets repeat dates has nothing to do with it. As in my case, unless something particularly bad happens, few men write an extremely negative review right after the first meeting, so the number of stars naturally tends to increase over time. So, you can think of women with more stars as being less likely to make you uncomfortable on the first meeting. Whether you’ll meet again or be able to continue seeing each other long-term depends on your compatibility. No matter how good someone’s profile looks, meeting her and ending up disappointed is pretty common with dating clubs. That said, you can’t necessarily say that a woman who has been registered for a while and still has three stars is a bad choice. Women who are Type C but lean toward B1 are more likely to fall into that category. (It seems that many three-star ratings are given when the woman was pleasant but an adult relationship wasn’t possible.) So if you happen to be her type, there’s a good chance you could develop a fairly deep relationship with her. In any case, I think it’s best to assume that, for both men and women, you’re rarely going to be someone’s only partner at a dating club. For your own peace of mind, it’s definitely better to keep a few potential partners in your life.

I think most women are looking for someone they can maintain a long-term relationship with, even if they don’t explicitly say so. That said, if you’re what’s often called her “only papa,” please understand that limiting herself to one man carries significant risks for her, for two reasons: 1. The allowance from one man often isn’t enough to meet her needs. 2. The relationship could end at any time. In other words, if you can eliminate those concerns, it’s only natural that she may eventually focus on just one man, even if she initially dates multiple men. However, if you absolutely want her to choose only you right away, I’d suggest carefully looking through profiles and videos to find women who are specifically looking for an exclusive arrangement. You do occasionally come across women like that—but ironically, they’re also sometimes already in relationships. Also, when a woman receives many offers and gets high ratings from the men she’s gone on dates with, her star rating will naturally be high. But that rating reflects the men’s evaluations and doesn’t necessarily mean she feels highly satisfied herself. I also think an arrangement usually becomes stable only after about six months. Since she may be listed again after just a month or two, even if you’ve already gone on a second or subsequent date, it’s best to understand that things may still feel unstable from her perspective.

If you’re looking for someone you can date for a long time, it really comes down to luck. So I think you should make lots of offers and choose from there. That’s what Fuu would do. Sometimes one offer is enough to lead to a monthly arrangement, while other times you can make offer after offer and still not find anyone. Even when you think you’ve found someone for a monthly arrangement, the woman may end things with you. Any analysis of the questioner’s situation is still just speculation, though. (“That’s just your opinion, right?”) In Fuu’s case, I don’t usually go for women who have just joined and seem popular. Competing with other papas to turn it into a monthly arrangement is difficult, and I don’t have that kind of financial strength anyway. I also don’t want to be hurt when they end things. Women with high ratings who have been listed for a long time tend to appear lower in the search results, so fewer people find them. They may have received offers when they were new, but things have settled down now. Fuu’s theory is that these women are often the ones worth making offers to—the hidden gems, so to speak. I also look at women with good ratings who have had new photos taken or re-registered. I’m better with women who already have some experience with papa-katsu. A lot of them have already had unpleasant experiences, so even though their allowance isn’t necessarily high, they’re not demanding or unpleasant, and things feel easygoing. I’m aiming for a second papa or later, haha. “I want to stay with one person for a long time.” Women don’t want to be seen as someone who sleeps around, and saying this also makes papas happy and leads to more offers, so you often see it in profiles. But personally, I think it’s more of a fantasy. What many women really want is to meet one generous papa (a younger, handsome older guy, ideally) who gives them their target amount, isn’t demanding, and doesn’t constantly pester them—and then stay with that one person for a long time. Many women probably genuinely feel that way when they write their profiles or first sign up. But there are only a handful of papas like that, and they’re hard to meet. Meanwhile, they still need money right away, so the reality seems to be that they have no choice but to see several monthly papas, haha. Conclusion: Make lots of offers and look for your favorite monthly partner among all the different women. Since this is papa-katsu, bringing in ideas like “staying with one person for a long time” or strict notions of fidelity will only happen by some miracle. I’d recommend enjoying yourself with several different women.

Women who get so many offers that their profiles are temporarily hidden, but reappear after a while, are probably either asking for a high allowance or are busy and have very few days available for dates. By the way, what kind of period do you mean by “long-term”? Three months or three years? I’m guessing you mean wanting things to continue beyond the second meeting? After that, you can just end it whenever you get bored and want to move on. I don’t think you can tell from a profile. As a papa, all you can really do is offer a higher allowance, work around her schedule, take care with your appearance, and hold back from things she seems uncomfortable with. Women who want to stay with one person for a long time do exist, of course, but I feel many of them are concerned about being recognized or already have a boyfriend. Men who mistake that for exclusivity and come across like obsessive, lovesick stalkers are more likely to approach them, but I think they’re actually avoided. It’s not necessarily the man who’s popular in ordinary dating who gets chosen. People who can maintain an appropriate distance are more readily accepted, and they don’t mind at all if the papa is seeing multiple women. I’m waiting for a connecting flight at the airport right now, and the 22-year-old college senior sitting next to me is like that too. She does seem to get slightly jealous of other girls, but I think that’s more like rivalry between women. It would actually be creepy if a 22-year-old genuinely had romantic feelings for someone in his 60s, so this is fine. Women in their 40s or 50s aren’t all that different. We’re heading to the southern seas, but she forgot her swimsuit, so I’m thinking of making her go into the water in a T-shirt and some random bottoms as a penalty. We’re on a privately chartered boat, so it’ll just be the two of us. The more I think about it, the more fun it sounds. Good thing she forgot her swimsuit, haha. We bought a ridiculously cheap Chinese-made swimsuit on the island—four pieces for 2,480 yen. After having her change at the hotel, it was obviously cheap, with minimal coverage, so it looked sexy. I got aroused, so we had H right there on the bed. We just came back from the hot spring, but it’s separated by gender, so I finished first and returned to the room. Now I’m waiting for our Italian dinner at six. There’s a rooftop bar upstairs, so I’m thinking we might take some risqué photos and have fun there, although we got up early and I might fall asleep. It had been a while since I’d had H with her still wearing a bikini, just shifting the fabric of the bottoms aside, so it was exciting. Afterward, we took ordinary swimsuit photos on the beach in front of the hotel. Thankfully, there were hardly any other guests. She said it felt gross because the swimsuit was wet around the crotch from when we had H, but I told her swimsuits are meant to get wet, so it wasn’t a problem. Taking photos while parading around a woman who’d just had H with me, still dressed the same way, was pretty great. Don’t overcomplicate things by thinking about love, romance, or long-term relationships. Just spend money, have H with young women, and enjoy yourself. That’s what papa-katsu is.

“Women whose profiles are taken down soon because they’re extremely popular and applications are flooding in” In most cases, this doesn’t mean the woman asked for it to be removed—the club decided to take it down. Once you understand that, I think it becomes clear where the misunderstanding comes from. In other words, it’s not that she met lots of people, had her profile removed, and then put it back up because things didn’t work out. Right after joining, most women want to meet as many men as possible. Some women do want to build a long-term relationship with one person, but that means finding one “good person”—not meeting only one man. Also, if she limits herself to just one person, she may start worrying about when he’ll cut things off. In the end, “I want a long-term relationship” becomes difficult to achieve if it really means “I want long-term support.” From that perspective, she may need to maintain relationships with two or three good people. Many women do want something long-term. After that, it depends on the man. Are you a “good man” from a woman’s perspective? That’s the important part.

What matters is dating someone you genuinely feel satisfied with. > If you’d ideally like to find someone you can see for a long time, you need to fulfill two things: First, be clear about your own preferences. In addition, the woman needs to want to see you often—in other words, to continue seeing you long-term. If you meet both of these conditions, you’ll achieve your goal. There’s no need to specifically search for someone who’s looking for a long-term arrangement. All women who do papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) think that way.

From what I hear from women, it seems most men arrange to meet about once a month. In other words, when a profile is reposted, they’ve usually only met once—or not at all. A month is simply too short to judge whether an arrangement will last. Also, I don’t think the woman’s personality is the main factor in whether things continue. I believe it’s mainly a matter of compatibility. So if you’re looking for someone you can see long-term, I think it’s important to be the kind of man who makes a woman want to continue seeing him after meeting in person. As for profiles, I focus on whether she seems like someone I’d genuinely want to have a long-term relationship with.

On profiles, I rely overwhelmingly on the videos. After that, I look at the relationship type. Photos aren’t very reliable, so I only use them as a rough reference. I treat the staff’s comments and the woman’s own comments the same way. If the video makes it clear that she’s my type, I’ll make an offer without hesitation as long as she isn’t Type D. I’m not fond of Type C, but if I like her, that alone isn’t a reason not to make an offer. I’ll of course make offers to Type A women too. Then I meet her, talk, have sex, and see whether we click. I can’t imagine doing it any other way. Sometimes a woman gives off a refined, innocent vibe in her profile, and when I meet her, she really is that way. But just as often, I meet someone who turns out to be absolutely wild. The girl I met two months ago had an enormous gap between her profile and reality—in a bad way. The staff will do everything they can to turn an introduction into a meeting, so there isn’t much you can learn from the written information. If anything, you can sometimes tell that a woman’s allowance for an adult relationship is obviously high, so I only glance at the financial expectations. Even when the comments make it sound like she has modest financial expectations or a relatively low allowance, I’ve met girls who charged 200,000 yen on a pay-per-meeting basis. So it’s not exactly reliable. That said, I’ve never met a woman who seemed obviously expensive but turned out to charge only 50,000 yen per meeting. Long-term relationships are the best. I have three top-tier monthly arrangements that have lasted over five years, and all three will be getting married next year. But I probably won’t lose touch with them. They’ve all declared that they’ll never break up with me, and that’s probably how it will be. They’re friends for life. I haven’t had sex with one girl who’s already married for over two years, but I meet her three times a month with her baby so we can catch up and maintain our old friendship. It makes me incredibly happy. I hope you find someone good. Oh, one important thing: without exception, the girls I’ve stayed with long-term were Type B. Not a single Type C relationship lasted over a year. None even lasted six months. So I’d recommend choosing Type B or Type A. The girl with whom I just started a monthly arrangement this month—although we haven’t had sex yet—is also Type B. Of these four women, two progressed to an adult relationship at the second meeting, while the other two moved on to an adult relationship after more than five dinner dates. (One of them hasn’t progressed to that stage yet.) Besides these girls, I have several irregular-but-long-term arrangements that have lasted over five years, and they were all Type B as well. I also have one Type A relationship that has lasted four years.